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 Many parents are facing a difficult situation when they know their son or daughter is abusing drugs or alcohol but is denying it. As parents we want to do the right thing but at the same time we do not want to over react, or maybe just do not know what steps to take. When a person is in denial and not admitting they have a problem with drugs or alcohol, it does not mean there is nothing you can do, there are solutions.

As a parent, spouse, or child of an addict you have been manipulated for far too long. Everytime the addict in your life wants or needs something he or she will manipulate you, at first you say no but soon he or she makes you feel sorry for them or you just get tired of fighting with them and give them what ever it is they wanted. If you want them to realize they need help, you need to change  your basic behavior. Trust me on this one, the addict will seek help sooner and your life will be better in the long run if you follow  these steps.

• Do not run from the addiction – Learn the facts about the drug that is being used, gather information.
• Do not throw blame at the addict – concentrate on your own actions, they are going to make or break you.
• Do not seek advice from the uninformed – friends, pastors, family doctors they may all want to help you with advice but unless the are trained in how to handle addiction the chance’s are  that following their advice will lead to more trouble then help. Seek  professional advice from a drug and alcohol Specialist.
• Do not try to control the addicts usage – Begin concentrating on the need for treatment and start offering it to them.
• It is not your job to rescue the addict – let him suffer he has to realize and take responsibility for the consequences of his addiction.
• You cannot be concerned with why the addict is using drugs or alcohol – You need to resume a normal life, leave the addict behind to wallow in his own self pitty.
• Do not threaten the addict – SAY WHAT YOU MEAN AND DO WHAT YOU SAY! – the more you do this the more the addict will realize you are not being pushed around and bullied or manipulated any more.
• Do not except or try to get promises from the addict – Reject any promise offered by the addict, you know from past promises they will not be kept anyway.
• Do not hide the fact that you are seeking help – not so much for the addict as for you, start a commitment to treatment and better health for you.
• Do not be a puppet – Start detaching yourself, protect yourself and any children involved in the relationship.

When you start to follow these steps you are on the right track to end the cycle of addiction.

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For drug and alcohol addicts hitting bottom is not an option.

           In resent years the widely accepted believe that an addict must hit bottom and ask for help on their own has been completely dicredited. For many years this was believed and followed only to find that many addicts never sought help before their addiction turned fatal and the loved ones were left paying for a funeral rather then treatment.

          Rather then waiting for such a crisis to occur strategies have been developed to deliberately create a crisis and to use it to coerce the addict into treatment. In preparing for this event you must learn many things about addiction and how to handle the addict. With the addicts behavior it is easy for the family to become angry and indifferent toward the addict. Compassion and understanding will make this process more effective. Moral judgment and condesending attitudes will only make the addict defensive and hostile and push them further away from treatment.

         Compassion and understanding are not words the family of an addict would choose when trying to deal with the addict. I understand the frustration and disapointment the family feels but the addict will not go to treatment because his or her family is mad at them. They cannot control their own behavior, the shame and embarrassment of their own actions is what drives them to contiune down the self distructive path they are already on, to deal with someone yelling at them is just another reason in their mind to get high and forget reality if only for a little while.

         If you have questions on how to deal with an addict please call Addiction Rehab Help, we can answer your questions and help you find the Addiction Treatment Program and Intervention Service that will end the cycle of addiction.

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I have thought about writing this artical for awhile now. I feel it needs to be written but at the same time I know it is not going to take away the hurt that an addict can bring to a family.

When I was "using" nothing was my fault, I blamed everyone from my wife to my job to my parents. My parents often took the blunt of my verbal abuse, looking back on it now it was because I felt the most guilt towards them. They had raised me right and I chose to do everything they had taught me not to do, so when ever they tried to help me my reaction was to blame them for all my problems. It was their fault I was drinking, my dad never spent time with me when I was a kid, they crammed their religion down my throat, what ever I could think of I threw it at them. Anything that made them feel responsible for what I was doing and took the responsibility away from me was fair game.

In actuality I was raised in a very loving christian home, yes I had to go to church but church did not make me an alcoholic or drug addict. My Dad did work a lot but he did it not to get away from the family, he did it so he could give us things that he never had growing up. My wife also took a lot of abuse and again, my drug and alcohol abuse was not caused by her.

In reality I could not take any responsibility for my own actions, I was out of control and wanted everyone else to feel the pain I was feeling. The things I said were more then hurtful to the people that loved me, they were driving them away from me. Again this is something I thought I wanted, just leave me alone – you can not help me, I am going to die from my addictions and there is nothing you can do to stop it.

Thank God for my family, they did not let the hurtful things I said drive them away from me, they hung in there even in the worst of times. Many tears were cried because of my actions and my verbal abuse but on Dec. 2 (many years ago) they drove me to a 6 month treatment center and said "we are not going to bury you before Christmas, we will not let you do this to your son. (At that time my son was 15 years old.) With that statement and being in front of the treatment center I think for the first time I had a glimps of reality, this was not just about me. My actions were hurting other people.

Okay, so was I ready to get treatment at that time or was it the basic Intervention that my parents did or what they said to me that day? Honestly I can not answer that question but I do know if they had done what I asked them to do (leave me alone) or if they had taken all the hurtful things I had said to them and said "enough is enough your on your own" I never would have gotten the treatment that I needed and I would have been dead before Christmas.

Do not give up on your loved one, Addiction Rehab Help can help you find the right Addiction Treatment Program and Intervention Team if needed. Call us today so we can help end the cycle of addiction.

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        Sitting by and waiting for a loved one to ether die or ask for help is not the only option. Letting an addict hit bottom has been proven to be an out dated concept and is never a good idea, history has shown that  the bottom is about six feet deep. When you’re dealing with an addict who will not admit he or she has a problem or is not willing to receive treatment, then an intervention is needed. There are nearly as many intervention services as there is Addiction-Treatment facilities, and like treatment facilities not all of them have high success rates. You need to know where to turn when it is time for an Intervention.

        First, you need to have an addiction treatment facility picked out and be ready to admit your loved one after the intervention is completed successfully. Second you need to find qualified intervention services. While a pastor, priest or a local counselor may be willing to help, you usually only have one shot at a successful intervention so it needs to be done by qualified intervention professionals. You can always have your local priest or support network attending with you and the intervention professional.

         A qualified intervention service with high success rates will not only work with the addict, but will spend the day before working with the family. They know the Intervention is going to be more difficult on the family than the addict, and they have to prepare the family for worst case scenarios. This can not all be completed in just a few hours before the intervention takes place – like some Interventionist will try to do.

If you’re ready to get the help needed to save your loved ones life contact Addiction Rehab Help for professional help in finding the best Intervention Team for your needs.

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